That Old Black Magic
Weird title, I know, but it seemed appropriate for the content of the post. A while back (ok, last night in the tub), I was reading a Fabio rip-off romance novel. Ok, one I have read before. Ok, ok….several times. STOP JUDGING ME!!! Anyway, I noticed that all the cheap romance novels I own tend to have a similar thread in common (no, not sex…ok, maybe that too. I SAID STOP JUDGING ME!!!). The protagonists always seem to find something irresistible about each other. Now, I know you think that happens in every bodice-ripper, but I’m not talking about physical attributes, though those seem to be amply stressed, sometimes embarrassingly so. Well, it got me to wonder what y’all, men and women both, tend to find irresistible in a person. What attracts you to someone, not just physically but mentally, too. Is it a scent that awakens a memory? The way they laugh? Maybe the way they can tell someone to fuck-off?
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Much better open thread than Prop 8.
Strength and the intelligence to apply it as needed in the amount needed. Both strength of character and personality. Which translates into confidence. If I were to sum up in one word what attracts me to someone (male or female) more than any other single thing it’s that: Confidence.
Confidence can make someone average or slightly below average in appearance jump several levels on the scale in my opinion.
Hmmm…. you know, I thought it would be easy to figure out, but so many factors play into determining the “irresistibility” quotient
Intelligence and strength are a must, but for me, a sharp wit and a sense of humor are vital. And by “vital” I mean “I need it to live”. And I also look for what I like to call “brutal charm”: frank honesty served with a smile
Unwarranted confidence isn’t at all interesting. It needs to be backed up by competence.
To me, confidence is the sum of many things, not the least of which you mention: intelligence. With intelligence seems to come a sense of humor a lot of the time. Sharp wit and brutal charm I also agree with. 
Heh. If I had the slightest clue what made someone irresistible I’d have probably not been single through my 30′s.
/me returns to taking notes
Well now that I have that old Arlen and Mercer going round and round in my head (Yes, I AM THAT OLD!), guess it’s time to answer the question.
Physically, I am partial to red hair, long legs, and smiling eyes. Though in my case, my better half won me over with the shyest of smiles.
On the intellectual side of the house … a quick wit, is a real big plus. Shared ideals and interests (politics/books/music/movies and the like also go along way.
Finally, just putting up with me is most likely the one thing which will seal the deal.
Armmed, it took me damn near to my 40′s to figure out, just listening and being attentive, went a LONG way (if you know what I mean, and I think that you do), back when I was on the dating scene.
However, if you ask my better half, she will say I must have lost that ability shortly after getting married. *grin*
Judge you? Never. Mmmm-mmm. Nope.
(FABIO??? Geezus, Aggie…)
I’m tickled you used the term “bodice-ripper” – I’ve always used that term and Cruel Wife HATES it. Well actually I say “Sweaty-nipple bodice-rippers”, but close enough.
You added that last line “the way they tell someone to fuck off” with yourself in mind, didn’t you?
- Smiling eyes – yes, smiling eyes
- Ability to laugh
- Kind
- Can put up with my shit
- Cruel Wife fit the profile: short, nice legs, and bodacious ta-tas
The last line? I’m a guy. Sue me.
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Really is hard to put a finger on. What makes a good woman isn’t really the same thing that makes one desirable or irresistible. I’ve put a lot of thought into analyzing what makes a woman really dig into your head and keep you up all day (I work nights, so I’m already up all night) and I’ve come to the conclusion that I have no fucking clue. I think its like weather. There are so many variables that mean little to nothing by themselves but are only significant when take as a whole. And just as there are many factors that can cause rain, there are many that can cause attraction.
Yeah, I agree with everyone else, there are a lot of variables. And I believe that many times people get seriously attracted to someone else for often the least predictable of reasons.
There was one woman I really liked many years ago, and yeah, she had a nice face and decent enough body, but what I found attractive was her smile and a couple of stock phrases she used, and the way she smiled and said them.
There was also a woman named Sandra, from New Orleans, and when you saw the way she could get an oyster off a half shell with her lips and tongue, well…….hell, any guy would have been in love.
LK, I said Fabio ripoff. Give me some credit!
No…but I do admit it is part of my natural charm
As to the last line, sure, physical attributes can also qualify for irresistibility. I just hope CW doesn’t beat you over the head when she reads that
CW laughed when I *read* it to her.
She’s able to put up w/ my shit, which was one of the criteria. She also knows that men are pigs, big dogs that talk, or portable heating pads, depending on the situation.
Beat me over the head? Nah! I mean, come on… the last line is a compliment.
Yes, those are totally different. No one can dispute Mother Teresa was a good woman. And no one can dispute Mata Hari was irresistible to some men.
But there is always something…one thing, or maybe two or five, that gets under the skin, and makes you smile when thinking about them
Hmmmmmm…..What would make a women “irresistible”? My first thought was “confidence” and that would be my one word answer. But I think it should be defined as a “healthy sense of self.” Over confidence leads to narcissism. I am finding this very difficult to describe. I find many women tend to be insecure emotionally because they don’t really “like themselves. I find many willing to put on a “role” of what they think men / society want. I find many that come across just superficial and “plastic.” The wonderbra has lead to many disappointments and I consider it false advertising! I find women that “know” themselves, know what they want, know why they want it and that have the moral fortitude to express themselves regardless of what others may “think” of them to be highly attractive. This has to include a sense of humility, compassion & consideration for others, good verbal communication skills, average intellect, a curious and open mind, and I could probably go on & on. From a physical perspective height / weight proportionate is optimum (for me). Personally I have never found anyone to be “irresistible.”
ability to make me laugh coupled with tight ass.
Lemur King says -
– Smiling eyes – yes, smiling eyes
- Ability to laugh
- Kind
- Can put up with my shit
- Cruel Wife fit the profile: short, nice legs, and bodacious ta-tas
My wife is already married to ME!!! =)
So, we know what YOU found irresistible, but have yet to figure out the mystery of what she finds irresistible in YOU
Since this is an open thread:
My wife found this and saw a need to make it viral:
All drugs have two names, a trade name and generic name.
Example, the trade name is Tylenol and it’s generic name is Acetaminophen.. Aleve is also called Naproxen.
Amoxil is also called Amoxicillin and Advil is also called Ibuprofen.
The FDA has been looking for a generic name for Viagra.
After careful consideration by a team of government experts, it recently announced that it has settled on the generic name of Mycoxafloppin.
Also considered were Mycoxafailin, Mydixadrupin, Mydixarizin, Dixafix, and of course, Ibepokin.
Pfizer Corp. announced today that Viagra will soon be available in liquid form, and will be marketed by Pepsi Cola as a power beverage suitable for use as a mixer..
It will now be possible for a man to literally pour himself a stiff one.
Obviously we can no longer call this a soft drink, and it gives new meaning to the names of ‘cocktails’, ‘highballs’ and just a good old-fashioned ‘stiff drink’.
Pepsi will market the new concoction by the name of: Mount & D0 …….
Thought for the day: There is more money being spent on breast implants and Viagra today than on Alzheimer’s research.
This means that by 2020, there should be a large elderly population with perky boobs and huge erections and absolutely no recollection of what to do with them.
Enjoy!!!
Physically I am very attracted to men with shaved heads and nice arms.
A dry, sly wit turns me on. And someone who smells ‘right’. It’s probably all down to pheromones
I have a shaved head. Aggie will have to vouch for me arms. Smell? Im pretty sure I smell like chocolate LOL : )
I’ll vouch for Troy, myra. He does have nice arms, too.
The chocolate thing you have to verify yourself, though
Sexy eyes and a pretty smile will get you most of the way there. My wife had both, so I was smitten!
http://woody.typepad.com/my_weblog/2009/02/my-wife.html
She still does and I still am.
♥
The smell of tobacco, leather, and scotch on a man. THAT’S irresistible
Hrm, so y’all know that when scotch makes it as the BotW then I’m out of town on a road trip.
Integrity (a fondness for telling the truth), intelligence, and humility supported by inner strength. Oh, and a nice butt.
Shortly before I met my wife, I nudged her room mate (whom I didn’t know was her roomie) and asked, “Who’s the soprano?”
I’ve always found her voice enchanting.